6 ways to prepare your
firstborn for a sibling
There's
nothing quite as joyous as bringing home a baby. While preparing your home for
the arrival of the new baby, it is important that you also prepare your older
child. How to help your child prepare for a new sibling.
Here are
few steps to help your older child adjust to the new family member and welcome
her sibling with open arms:
1. Older siblings love being "big helpers
Older siblings
love being "big helpers." Get them involved in doing stuff for your little
one. From choosing items for the baby before she arrives to buying gifts once
she arrives involve them in maximum things. Assign simple tasks to your older
child, such as picking out the baby's blanket or handing you baby’s napkin and
a diaper during changing time. By getting involved in caring for the younger
sibling, your older child will feel more included and less jealous.
2. Applause
your older kid
Talk about all
the things your older child can do that the baby can't do yet -- such as
reading books, playing in the park, reciting poems, eating yummy food or going
to school. This will help her realize that although the baby is new and unique,
she's special in her own way, too. Of course, it's important to say positive
things about the baby too -- saying "She just smiled!" or "She
finally slept through the night!" might help your older one establish a
sense of pride in her little sister or brother.
3. Special
time with your older kid
Once the baby
arrives, make sure you and your spouse spend plenty of time with the older
sibling. Doing so helps remind older children that while Mommy and Daddy do love the
new baby, they still love them just as much. Grab a quick lunch together at
home while the baby is sleeping or even go for a walk to a nearby playground. Your
infant will not know whether she spent every waking moment of her first few
months with you -- but your older one might.
4. Walk Down Memory Lane
A visit to your
older child’s past as an infant will help her understand what changes she might
soon see in your household. Emphasize the importance of family and nurture a
sense of belonging, by asking questions such as "I wonder, will the baby look
like you? Or will she behave as good as you? Or will she be as happy as you
when she starts going to school?"
5. Pick up a
small gift
When you're in
the hospital, give the big sibling a small gift and say it's from the new baby.
You can also ask her to help pick out a present for her new born sister. Your
child will feel more love and appreciation for the baby. Also, keep small toys
on hand in case well-wishers bring gifts for the baby and not for the big
sibling.
6. Encourage your child's connection
Encourage your child's connection to the baby by referring to the baby as
"Your sister" or "Your baby." The more ownership they feel
-- and of course, the less they feel displaced -- the less jealousy they'll
exhibit. Take your older baby with you to the doctor to hear the baby's
heartbeat. Let him "name" or suggest names for the baby.
